Is Your Relationship Toxic?
Take this 2-minute assessment to discover if your relationship is healthy or toxic—and what to do about it.
You can feel it. Something's wrong.
Maybe it's the constant criticism. Maybe it's the blame. Maybe it's the walking on eggshells, the yelling, the control. You know the signs. You're just not sure if what you're experiencing is "normal relationship conflict" or something deeper—something toxic.
The truth? Most people don't know the difference until it's too late. They normalize behaviors that slowly erode their sense of self, their peace of mind, and their emotional well-being. They tell themselves it's just a rough patch, that every relationship has problems, that things will get better with time.
This assessment reveals exactly where your relationship stands. It cuts through the confusion and gives you clarity—the kind of clarity that can change everything.
What Makes a Relationship Toxic?
Toxic relationships aren't always obvious. They don't always involve yelling or physical aggression. Sometimes, the most damaging relationships are the ones where toxicity wears a mask of normalcy.
Toxicity can be subtle, insidious, and hard to name. It creeps in slowly, disguising itself as care, concern, or even love. But beneath the surface, something fundamental is broken.
Constant Criticism & Belittling
Your opinions are dismissed. Your achievements are minimized. You're told you're too sensitive, too dramatic, or just wrong. Over time, you start to believe it.
Blame-Shifting & Gaslighting
Nothing is ever their fault. When you bring up concerns, somehow it becomes about what you did wrong. You question your own memory, your perceptions, your reality.
Walking on Eggshells
You monitor your words, your tone, your facial expressions. You're constantly calculating how to avoid triggering anger, withdrawal, or conflict. Living this way is exhausting.
Control Over Your Life
They dictate who you see, where you go, what you wear, how you spend your time. Independence is seen as a threat. Your autonomy slowly disappears.
Lack of Accountability
Apologies are rare and insincere. Patterns repeat without change. There's no genuine effort to understand the impact of their behavior or take responsibility for harm caused.
Feeling Drained & Unsafe
You feel anxious, exhausted, and emotionally depleted. Whether it's emotional safety or physical safety, something fundamental is missing. You don't feel at peace in your own relationship.
The common thread? You don't feel safe. Emotionally or physically. When you're in a toxic relationship, your nervous system is constantly on high alert. You're stressed. You're confused. You're questioning yourself. And the longer you stay, the harder it becomes to see clearly.
The Cost of Staying in a Toxic Relationship
Toxic relationships don't stay static. They escalate. What starts as occasional tension becomes chronic stress. What feels manageable today becomes unbearable tomorrow. The trajectory is predictable—and painful.
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Right Now
You're managing the conflict. You're trying to make it work. You're hoping things will get better. Maybe you've had a few good days recently, and that gives you hope. You tell yourself you can fix this, that if you just try harder, communicate better, or love more, everything will improve.
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Six Months from Now
The toxicity has become normalized. You've stopped speaking up because it's not worth the fight. You've learned which topics to avoid, which feelings to suppress. Resentment is building on both sides. The connection you once had feels like a distant memory. Intimacy—emotional and physical—has all but disappeared.
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One Year from Now
You're depleted. Your self-esteem is shattered. You're wondering if you'll ever feel happy again. Your kids, if you have them, are absorbing the tension and learning unhealthy patterns. Your health is suffering—sleep problems, anxiety, depression, stress-related illnesses. You've isolated from friends and family because it's easier than explaining what's really going on.

The question isn't whether you can stay—it's whether you should. Every day you remain in a toxic relationship is a day you're not healing, not growing, and not moving toward the life you deserve. The cost of staying is measured not just in time, but in your sense of self, your mental health, and your future happiness.
You deserve clarity. You deserve to know the truth about your relationship. And you deserve support in making the decision that's right for you.
Take the Assessment Now
2 minutes. Real insights. Personalized results.
This isn't just another online quiz. This assessment is designed to help you see your relationship clearly—perhaps for the first time in a long time.
Answer honestly. Your responses are completely confidential. No one will see your answers except you. This is your safe space to tell the truth about what's really happening.
At the end, you'll receive personalized results that identify specific patterns in your relationship, help you understand what's causing the most pain, and provide clear next steps forward.
The assessment includes questions about:
Communication patterns
How you and your partner talk to each other during conflict and everyday moments
Emotional safety
Whether you feel comfortable expressing your feelings, needs, and concerns
Control and autonomy
Your freedom to make decisions, maintain friendships, and live your life
Respect and accountability
How you're treated when things go wrong and whether there's genuine responsibility
Your emotional state
How the relationship makes you feel on a daily basis
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Your Personalized Results Will Show You:
When you complete the assessment, you won't just get a generic score. You'll receive a detailed analysis tailored to your specific situation—one that gives you the clarity and direction you need to move forward.
Relationship Health Status
Whether your relationship is toxic, unhealthy, or healthy—and what that means for your well-being and future
Specific Damaging Patterns
The exact behaviors and dynamics that are causing harm in your relationship right now
Comparison to Healthy Standards
How your relationship measures up against research-backed indicators of relationship health
Primary Pain Points
What's causing the most emotional distress and damage in your day-to-day life together
Your Next Steps
Concrete, actionable guidance on what to do about your situation—whether that's repair, boundaries, or exit planning
Resources & Support
Access to therapists, coaches, support groups, and other resources designed to help you through this
Your results will be delivered immediately after you complete the assessment. You'll be able to save them, print them, or refer back to them whenever you need clarity. This isn't just information—it's a roadmap for your next chapter.
Based on Real Research
This assessment isn't based on opinion or guesswork. It's grounded in rigorous research, real-world experience, and proven psychological frameworks.
Every question has been carefully designed to identify patterns that show up in toxic relationships. The scoring system reflects decades of relationship science and therapeutic practice. The results you receive are backed by evidence—not just theory.
Psychological Research on Toxic Relationship Patterns
Drawing from attachment theory, trauma-informed therapy, and clinical psychology, this assessment identifies behaviors that research has consistently linked to relationship dysfunction and harm.
Interviews with Relationship Experts and Therapists
Insights from licensed therapists, couples counselors, and relationship coaches who work with toxic relationships every day informed the development of this tool.
Real Stories from People Who've Escaped Toxic Relationships
Over 1,000 interviews with individuals who've left toxic relationships revealed common patterns, warning signs, and turning points that are reflected in this assessment.
Proven Frameworks for Identifying Relationship Health
The assessment uses established measures of emotional safety, respect, communication, and control—factors that are universally recognized as essential to healthy relationships.

This isn't theory. These are patterns that show up in real relationships. The questions you'll answer aren't abstract or academic—they reflect the lived experiences of thousands of people who've been exactly where you are now. This assessment meets you where you are and helps you see what's really happening.
About Michael Brett
Michael Brett is a relationship coach specializing in helping people understand what healthy relationships look like—and how to build them. His work focuses on one foundational principle: emotional safety is everything.
With over 1,000 interviews with women and hundreds of successful relationship transformations, Michael's approach is grounded in real research and proven results. He doesn't offer quick fixes or empty platitudes. He offers truth, clarity, and a path forward.
Michael works with individuals and couples who are committed to either saving their relationships or making the hard decision to leave. His coaching style is direct, compassionate, and focused on sustainable change. He believes that everyone deserves a relationship where they feel safe, respected, and valued—and he's dedicated to helping people create that reality.
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